K3 Mini English Competition

Every class were asked to choose 3 kids to participate in the competition. I have chosen YAQIN, PRETTY PLOY and MILK, but the lattest felt lack of courage to participate and said to me, "Miss Lorna mai chop" I don't know if the spelling in Thai is correct, it means "I don't like". I looked for another kid and selected HUANG. The competition was done last 21st of february 2009. There were 9 kids and they were asked to spell 5 vocabularies by means of writing and read 5 sentences.

Luckily, there were 4 kids who became first in the competion and do you know what happened? Among the 4 kids, my 3 kids were included! It's an honor for me as their mentor....I was very proud of them!

A Cry of Happiness

This morning at about 9:00 in the morning, we had the K3 graduation at my beloved school(hehehe). I was happy that they are going to graduate and at the same time I was sad because for the whole year we'd been together and even they were naughty sometimes, I became so close to them. I'll gonna miss all of you, yet the memories will remain within me! GOOD LUCK to your new stage of life!

After the ceremony, YES! its posing time...all my kids asked me to take a picture with them....ooh come one MISS LORNA...say cheese and give your sweetest SMILE.. I was touched when one of the parents gave me a big bouquet of orchids.....thanks KHUN ME (that's from MILK's mother) one of the brightest in my class and she'd been close to me....good luck kiddo!

Hello, everyone!

Check out your own sea waves.....can you measure it?
BE BRAVE!

Spirituality and the bicycle

- learn how to get rid of depression by getting involved in loving action

Stability of your happiness is the result of loving forward action and progress on your path of love
When you remember the early or first times you used a bicycle - then you remember how unstable a bicycle is when it is still - standing on spot without any forward motion at all. Unless you are a highly trained bicycle artist to establish or even maintain stability and balance when sitting on a bicycle that is stopping is almost impossible for mortals.

Yet once you started to move an a secure and clean road to move - may be at a speed of 10 to 20 km per hour - you will experience how stable the originally unstable bicycle has become and with a little more experience and practice you may even drive free hand and relaxed very securely on a clean and secure road.

Every once in a while i have some God seekers complaining about their problems of being depressed, surrounded, used, obsessed and abused by darkness, dark spirits or beings - suffering from emptiness of their life, suffering from depression even thoughts of suicide. Some want to go on a retreat - without even having started to be involved in any true and useful activity to withdraw from while going on a retreat.

The life of such persons suffering from depressive mind, from darkness and emptiness of their life, has one in common with a bicycle driver on halt ...

They are inactive, without forward motion, without progress toward a goal, and if moving - then on a path different from a path of love. Hence their overall life has become unstable. Being fully exposed to all environment, being subject to all physical and spiritual laws - but without any inside force moving in any direction or even less in a loving direction of life !

True happiness and bliss in life occurs as a result of permanent motion, activity - progress toward more and more loving activities. True life is meant to be enjoyed actively by acting, by loving, by doing something for the benefit of OTHERS, for the benefit of all creation and as a preparation for that latter and final state of spiritual achievement - here on earth we first learn to be positively, lovingly active for the benefit of ALL planet, of all nature, environment and humanity.

Those many millions of humans being merely full time busy working for their very own self support - are like tumors - living at the expense of ALL organism - without giving any benefits FOR all organism. Hence life occurs useless, without true sense, without true goal or content - such life is depressive, empty of true worthy and loving content - resulting in spiritual darkness and separation from all including separation from God.

Depression is the result of being closed for the LOVE to ALL - of being separated FROM ALL
Hence being cut off from the cycle of eternal life - like any malignant tumor living from a body - even endangering or worst killing an entire body - without being of any true use to that body. Separation from all always is the result of your very own action, decision and closing your self as a result of laziness, hence stinginess or revenge toward others.

Depression is the result of inactivity in life for the well being of all others
Love toward all is expressed as positive, loving, CREATIVE and PRODUCTIVE action for the benefit of all - or at least for the benefit of many without being detrimental to a single part of creation.

Loving action in life is what keeps us STABLE in life, what gives us the stability to relax and enjoy while progressing toward a higher goal. The higher goal first of all to be attained by all mortal humans on earth is again ONENESS with God resulting in full healing from any karma, spiritual ignorance and selfish behavior and thus opening the door to infinite flow of love toward all in all situations of life.

Loving productive and creative action for the benefit of ALL - very specially for the benefit of OTHERS outside our family and relatives is what creates a source of bliss and love IN OUR being, in our life, in our earthly existence. Such loving action expressed as a productive WORK for others is the solution to all instability or depression in your life.

The more loving action you create in your life - the more relaxed you can be, the more secure you feel and the stronger you feel in your life.

The key for stability in your happiness is the continuous flow of love in your work for others
Find a goal in your life, find an activity or productivity that pleases you, that suits your talents God gave you, that meets a natural need of others - and keep on progressing and improving your services and products offered by you and you will experience joy of life, fun in life while working as a result of joy of life created or supported IN OTHERS.

Just like the bicycle driver - if you have reached a steady speed as a result of your very own forward motion on a secure path - the path of love - then you get closer and closer to the goal while enjoying your ride more and more and even growing stronger while gaining additional experiences during the course of your active life.

If you have started to be WITHIN the creative and productive cycle of life - here and now on earth - at least for a few days - then you start more and more to feel useful, helpful on demand, and as a result our happiness starts to re-occurs again on the horizon of your life. The more you keep on being creative and productive for the benefit of many or better all - the more stabilized your life, your happiness will be. As a final result your love grows stronger and stronger and makes you a

better lover, better partner, better friend, better relative, better family member

making more people more happy

... resulting in being more happy yourself

A rock solid happiness growing on a strong basis - dynamic, active LOVE for all and surviving all darkness, depths and even hell - eternally !!!

Values of life and value of family for you

love or money
family or career

What are your values of life, is it your family, freedom, your culture of personal values that you have achieved and preserved that deserve your protection and a high ranking priority in life ? Are you aware of your true values in life and do you protect and support or promote these values ?

Family values
In today's fast moving world with all the many distractions - many of us forget easily their true values - waste time on wrong paths of life and suddenly life is over before it really started.

Take some time to think and feel what really matters to you - write down the first several points that appear truly of value to you in your life. Is it to have ...

a family - at home - being there for you, sharing all spare time with you ?
having a partner in life to hug you, to love you, to accept your love ?
friends that are there for you whenever you fall in life, when ever you need company or someone to talk to or help ?
job or money ?
career and recognition from other as a substitute of true love in our own relationship ?
freedom ? freedom to travel, freedom of doing business, freedom to select your job, education and home town ?
... or do you have other values in your life ? If yes - which ones ?
Find the true eternal values of your life
Depending on your education, culture or country you live, grow up or work, you may be influenced by your surrounding and even pulled away or distracted from your own goal of life and true values.

Take a time - in peace and may be in nature - to think about what is of true innermost value to you. Are these ..

Christian values, religious values or spiritual values
Jesus Teachings of Love, sharing, helping, humanity and love toward all. Is God and harmony with God a true value of high ranking in your heart, soul and mind ? If YES, are you truly following and practicing such values in your own present life. Are you protecting such values, supporting the expansion of such values in a loving and peaceful way. Are you living such values of true Divine Love as taught for thousands of years ?

The only efficient and most powerful way to actually support a true value is by:

Living it as a living example without imposing it on anyone else
Admitting such inner values to the outside world, to your family members, friends, colleagues at work or customers
Improving your own way of living and realizing these - your very own - values of life
Investing in the improvements, maintenance, free distribution and free peaceful and loving expansion of your values among all those who are interested in or want to follow your own living example as a result of seeing you more happy in your family and with your partner, more happy in business or job, more successful in all you do and of course more healthy than the average human being.
If your true values of life are in real harmony with your innermost divine being, your soul and heart, then of course you will be more happy than others, more successful than others and far more healthy - inner and outer health - than others. True spiritual values practiced in full harmony with God and hence with your own innermost spiritual being always result in excellent well being and happiness in all situations of your eternal life.

Human values
Some of the greatest single value of any human - compared to nature and animals are:

Freedom to move anywhere on this planet, freedom to travel, freedom to select a partner based on spiritual values or human values rather than survival values.
Freedom to select job, business, location of living
Freedom of education - freedom to learn what ever you want
Freedom to do any time and anywhere what you love to do
Freedom to change anything in life
Freedom to make your very own personal decisions and realize those decisions on your own
Are you aware of your God given above treasures and if yes are you really using your God given freedom for the happiness and joy of all - of your family, friends, and all human society and creation as well ?

Cultural values - do you value the tradition and culture of your country or any other country on this planet
Different cultures have different values or restrictions. Cultural traditions may be enjoyable or a simple old fashioned burden. Cultural traditions may be adding value to life, adding color of life or restricting free divine development.

Some countries or cultures may vary in

Freedom of religion and spiritual practices
Freedom of speech or expression of opinion
Freedom of meeting, public gathering, forming clubs or societies
Political freedom or freedom to participate in the free and democratic development of society
Freedom to travel in and out of a country - freedom to immigrate or emigrate - to come into a country as a foreigner and being allowed and fully accepted to live, work and socialize freely in his new host country or the freedom to leave your native country and travel or work in any other country on this entire planet
Freedom to travel within your own country freely, move to a permanent new location within your country and start a job anywhere you want in your country. Even select freely the kind of job and kind of business you love to venture into
Are these values important to you ? Did you ever use them ? are you taking then for granted ? In past years and decades - I have been repeatedly traveling and working in dozens of different countries with almost full restriction to travel. Example in the late 1970-ties in Haiti to travel from Port-au-Prince to Cap Haiti we needed a permission to travel, a "laissez-passer" - all - foreigners and native Haitians alike.

During the time I worked in Zaire - 1978-79 - i needed written signed "laissez-passer" from the provincial Governor and General for any travel outside the city of Lubumbashi. Many other similar restrictions all around the world - like curfew - restriction to go out during certain times of day - during war in Pnomh Penh, Cambodia in the 1970-ties. Or restricted access to fuel - in Zaire or in Cambodia.

Restrictions to import foreign currency or export your savings in and out of countries. Restrictions to import or export goods.

Such restrictions are spread all over the world in various countries and many fields of activities. Restrictions to select or practice a job of your free choice. Restrictions to marry or divorce to have children or to educate as you like are existing far more than many know.

If such values are important - what exactly are you doing to maintain them, to protect or enforce them in a peaceful, loving and efficient way. Are you investing a reasonable amount of efforts, time and financial resources to maintain and expand in a free, loving and peaceful way your important values in your country and culture ?

Personal values and moral values
Can you express love the way you love to. Can you dress the way you love to ? Do you have freedom in medical treatment - freedom to select between chemo-medicine or or traditional divine or herbal medicine ?

Can you select the way you are dying and when ? Can you freely select the way and place your bodily remains may be used, disposed or buried ?

Can you eat what you want, dress how you like, learn what you love, see the movies you love or watch the TV channels you are interested in ? Or is there censorship, control and restriction imposed by someone ?

Can you select the partner for life you love most or are marriages arranged and partners imposed upon you by parents or society ?

Nutritional values of your food
Is the food offered to you natural and the way you love it most - or has your country turned into a chemical factory for manufactured food, genetically modified food and junk food making normal God made natural food either too expensive to be affordable or pushed out of market and store shelves to make place for higher profit manufactured industrial food products ?

Is the food you are being offered controlled and manipulated by rules and regulations or are farmers free to produce and offer their own natural products directly to end consumers ? Can you decide yourself from what country bananas, apples, fruits, vegetables and other agriculture products of any kind are - or is your food market controlled by import restrictions and other laws ?

Values of life often only become valuable to most after they have lost them - many or most first need to lose what they have to realize how much they had and to become aware of what truly mattered to them and was truly important to them !
The most valuable things in life can neither be stored in a bank account - nor in a vault or purse - the most valuable aspects of life are of different nature - NON-material !

Core values of life
For all human beings - the core values or key values are very much the same.

Freedom
To do what they love to do and need to do

Free choice
To select from infinite options life offers always the one option best suitable for your needs

Freedom of love
To love how and who they want

Freedom of progressing
Moving to other locations is but a means to most efficiently achieve spiritual goals often subconsciously aware. The innermost spiritual core of each human knows the spiritual ( religious ) needs to re-gain freedom or to learn to love in order to regain freedom. Hence the inner driving force to achieve such most efficient spiritual progress requires absolute freedom to meet, see, socialize with all those being part of your learning process or your dissolving and spiritual healing process.

Freedom of meeting and socializing
To meet, love, marry and have friends who ever you select and whatever their nationality or location may be.

Freedom of truth-finding
To know the absolute truth about everything. To know about God and our origin, to know how to return the most efficient and most direct way, to know all spiritual rules and laws, to know how to achieve our inner and outer freedom and to regain our spiritual power, freedom, peace and love potential.

Freedom of self realization and God realization
To become one with God, return home to our eternal home. To truly know who we are and know our past and future - to know all about our true eternal origin and nature of our being and to live it again in oneness with God.

How much are you investing in restoring or maintaining all true values of your life
Find out your values of life - and fully support these values with all your heart, soul and divine power of love !
From those living in "industrialized first world countries" most are spending thousands of $, £, €, ¥, ... each year for material belongings and temporary material values such as cellphone, cars, TV, electronics, computers and other gadgets of life ....

All those are thus spending hundreds or more of working hours each year to obtain and maintain such material values. and to learn purely intellectual temporary knowledge needed to achieve such outer and temporary things in life.

How much however do you invest in time, efforts and money to educate yourself in lasting eternal values. In spiritual knowledge, in knowing how to be a truly loving partner for your eternal living partner, how to be a loving father and friend for all others ??

Are you supporting, protecting and actively maintaining all those values of life that really appear valuable to you - OR - are you taking all those values of life for granted ... until you have lost them one day - just to realize how much you had and what truly matters to you ! When people lose freedom, source of happiness or partner of life, then this loss occurs for one single reason only - they failed to invest the needed amount or quantity of available resources into these sources of values. They spent too much time, efforts, study, money and power toward material goals - leaving no time nor other urgently needed resources to maintain, protect and free the love needed for their truly happy-making values of life.

To regain lost values of life may take years, decades or longer and most of the time all your fortune down to the very last cent - to maintain may take just a honest amount of daily efforts and resources.

WHAT SHOULD YOU SAY?

It's 7:00 on a Wednesday, and you've just returned home after a long day. You have a lot of work you have to get done before tomorrow, and you're looking forward to relaxing before you get started. Right as you are getting ready to sit down, tsunami calls.
'I've had a really bad day,' she says. 'Can I come over to talk about it?'

What should you say?


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'I'm sorry, I have too much work to get done tonight, but we'll talk about it tomorrow.'


'Sure, come on over,' thinking that you'll figure out a way to get your stuff done.

When tsunami gets to your place, you can tell she is upset and seems somewhat withdrawn. The family dog had died and her parents had called earlier to tell her. tsunami tells you about how she received the dog as a birthday gift when she was six years old and how she used to play with him all the time when she was growing up.

What should you say?


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'I'm sorry, but I'm sure he's in a better place now.'


'I'm sorry, but you have to remember it's just a dog. People go through worse things every day.'

tsunami seems to ignore your comment and after talking awhile longer she gets ready to leave. As she is heading out the door, her cell phone rings. It's her mom, wanting to know if she can come home tomorrow because they haven't seen her for awhile. tsunami tells her she will call her back to let her know.
When she hangs up, she tells you she has to get her car worked on tomorrow and wants to know if you'll come home with her for the evening. You've met her family before and think that they'll probably still be upset about the dog.

What should you do?


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Agree to go.


Ask if she can wait for you to take her this weekend instead.

As soon as you get home Thursday, you leave to pick tsunami up. As soon as she gets in the car, you can tell she is in a bad mood. When you're driving, she starts critcizing you and tells you that you're following the car in front of you too closely.

What should you say?


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'Thanks for letting me know,' and slow down, knowing she has had a rough week.


'If it weren't for me driving you, you wouldn't even be going home right now,' thinking that just because she is in a bad mood doesn't give her the right to criticize you.
tsunami again seems to ignore your comment. When you get to her house, her family greets her at the door. They haven't seen her in a few months and are excited she is home. They all give her a hug and then her mom turns to you.

What should you do?


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Wait to see if she hugs you first.


Open your arms to hug her.

Dinner is ready so everyone sits down to eat. Halfway through dinner, the doorbell rings. In walks a guy your age. Quickly walking over to tsunami, the guy gives her a hug. tsunami introduces the guy as her parents' next door neighbor whom she grew up with. At one point tsunami is talking to the guy so intently that she ignores what you are saying.
When the guy leaves, the guy gives tsunami a new phone number and tells her to call sometime.

Once you're back in the car, What should you do?


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Not say anything, assuming they are just old friends.


Tell her you would prefer she not call.
tsunami begins talking about the guy and tells you how they grew up together and are old friends. You don't really say anything. Later on the way home, you ask tsunami if she wants to go to dinner tomorrow night. 'I already have plans to go out with my friends,' she tells you. You've gone out many times in the past with her and her friends, so you're surprised when she lets the subject drop without inviting you.

What should you say?


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'Is it a girls night out?


'Is something wrong?'

tsunami tells you that the girls are just getting together to hang out and it's no big deal. You drop her off and nothing more is said about the weekend.

The next night, a friend calls you up and you make plans to go out. You meet up with a bunch of people at a local bar and are sitting off to the side talking when you see tsunami come in with her group of friends.

What should you do?


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Immediately go up to her to say hello.


Stay off to the side, thinking you'll be able to see how she acts when you're not around.


tsunami sees you first and comes over to talk to you and your friends although she seems kind of quiet. Everyone is having a good time and then her friends come up to tell her they're going somewhere else. tsunami says a hurried goodbye and then leaves.

You spend all day Saturday relaxing and getting work done, assuming you and tsunami will do something later that night. It's 6:00 and she hasn't called yet.

What should you do?


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Wait for her to call you.


Call her to find out what's going on for the night.

You end up talking to tsunami around 6:30, but she offers no explanation as to why she didn't call earlier. tsunami tells you she doesn't feel like going out to dinner, but would rather you just come over to her house instead. Usually you spend Saturday nights out doing something together.
Just then, your phone rings. It's your best friend, wanting to know what you're doing tonight. You tell her you're just going to hang out with tsunami. 'Why aren't you two going out to do something?' she asks.

What should you say?


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'I think she is just tired from the week and wants to relax.'


'I'm wondering if something bad happened last night that she wants to talk about.'

You go over to her house later that evening, and you two order pizza and watch a movie. You try to talk to tsunami about why she didn't want to go out and do something, but she says she was just tired and didn't feel like leaving the house.
Later that night, her roommate comes home and tells tsunami her car is acting funny and wants to know if tsunami will look at it with her. They go out into the driveway and while they're outside, you hear a beep. You realize tsunami left her cell phone on the table and that she has a text message.

What should you do?


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Glance through her text messages to see who has been messaging her.


Ignore it and wait for her to come back inside.
tsunami comes back inside and you hangout for awhile longer. When you're walking out the door, you ask if she wants to do something Sunday, like see a movie or go to dinner.

'We always do the same things,' she says. 'Why don't we try to find something different to do?'

What should you say?


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'I'm glad you want to try something new,' thinking that you've been bored with the same things as well.


'Has something been wrong with the things we've been doing?' wondering if she has been bored with the relationship.

tsunami tells you that she has been thinking you two should try some new things, like maybe playing a sport together or something like that because she is getting tired of doing the same things.
On Sunday, your parents call and tell you that your grandma is in the hospital. She has been sick for awhile, so it's not surprising news, but you are still a little upset about it. When you go out with tsunami that night, what should you do?:


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Tell her about your grandma, hoping she will be able to make you feel better.


Not mention your grandma to her, thinking that it might ruin the night.

tsunami is fifteen minutes late picking you up. You call her cell phone and don't get an answer. Another ten minutes goes by.
You call her roommate to see if she knows where she is, but the roommate hasn't seen her all day.
'Where do you think she is?' her roommate asks.

What should you say?


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'I don't know, I'm worried something has happened to her.'


'I don't know, I'm worried she might have forgotten about our plans.'

tsunami finally shows up, explaining that she was at a friend's house and accidentally forgot about your date. You end up going out to dinner with some of her friends--another couple that you don't know well. At dinner, tsunami puts her arm around you and kisses you on the cheek a few times at the table. Later, she reaches for your hand while you're walking to the car with the other couple.

What should you do?


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Gladly hold her hand, happy that she is willing to be expressive around others.


Casually pull your hand back, not comfortable with so many public displays of affection.
tsunami finally shows up, explaining that she was at a friend's house and accidentally forgot about your date. You end up going out to dinner with some of her friends--another couple that you don't know well. At dinner, tsunami puts her arm around you and kisses you on the cheek a few times at the table. Later, she reaches for your hand while you're walking to the car with the other couple.

What should you do?


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Gladly hold her hand, happy that she is willing to be expressive around others.


Casually pull your hand back, not comfortable with so many public displays of affection.


The night ends well and the rest of your week is pretty typical. However, toward the end of the week you start feeling sick and by Friday you don't even feel like getting out of bed. You need to pick up some medicine from the pharmacy, and as you're getting ready to go, tsunami calls and, after you've complained for awhile, offers to go get it for you.

What should you say?


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'Thanks, that'd be great.'


'Thanks, but don't worry about it, I can get it myself.'

tsunami spends the rest of the evening at your house taking care of you. At one point, she gets a call and goes into the other room to answer it. You hear a lot of laughing, and twenty minutes later she comes back and tells you it was her ex calling to say hello. You know that they are still friends and talk occasionally. tsunami asks if you're okay with the fact that she still talks to her ex.

What should you say?


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'Yeah, I'm glad to know you can still get along with people you've dated.'


'Not really, I'm a little worried something may still be going on between you two.'
tsunami continues talking about her ex for awhile and doesn't seem to care whether or not it bothers you. You're starting to feel a little jealous. The week before, someone you used to be interested called to ask you out, but you didn't tell tsunami because it wasn't a big deal to you and you'd more or less forgotten about it. While she is talking about her ex, you suddenly remember the incident and figure she will probably be jealous if you tell her.

What should you do?


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Casually bring up the incident, hoping she will feel a little jealous.


Not mention the incident to her, not wanting her to feel jealous.


You're feeling better by the end of the weekend and back into your routine the following week. You and tsunami usually exchange an email or two during the day, but this week she seems to be emailing and calling a lot more than usual. It doesn't seem like she is checking up on you, just keeping in touch, although some of the emails seem more distant than usual. One afternoon, she sends you three emails, just asking various questions about your day.

When you respond, what should you write?


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I'm glad you want to know how my day is going, but I'm too busy to answer your emails during the day. Can we just talk at the end of the day instead?


Please quit emailing me so much, you know I'm busy and don't have time to answer them.

The following week, tsunami comes over to your place. You are just hanging out and having a good time when you begin to get into a discussion about the relationship. tsunami says she feels that things are getting serious and that you should have a discussion about where things are going.

What should you say?


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'That's a good idea,' figuring it can only help the relationship if you're both on the same wavelength.


'Maybe we should take a break,' figuring she is having second thoughts about the relationship and you should end things before she does.

What do you think of tsunami?

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You and tsunami continue to talk about the relationship, expressing your feelings and how you feel the relationship is going. It's getting late, so you agree to sleep on things and talk about it more the next day.

The End

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Before summarizing your data, we would like for you to rate your perception of tsunami along several dimensions. Please click a circle to indicate how much you agree or disagree with each statement.


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Please rate the following statements with respect to how you think you would evaluate your relationship with tsunami had the relationship been a real one.


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This person is likely to meet my needs.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This person behaved as if he or she truly loved me.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This person behaved as if he or she was invested in our relationship.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This person behaved as if he or she was satisfied with our relationship.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This relationship would certainly last for more than a year.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This relationship would not be worth pursuing.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This relationship is as good as most other relationships.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

I would be quite satisfied in a relationship with this person.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree

This person is someone I could trust.

Strongly Disagree Strongly Agree


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CAN I COUNT ON YOU?


One of the key issues in developing a romantic relationship is whether you believe that your partner will always be there for you emotionally at difficult times. Of course, you never know for sure until the chips are down. But most people are pretty good at predicting whether they have found someone they can always count on. We are interested in how people become confident that a romantic partner will always be there for them. Below, you will find some of the indicators people say they use to make such judgments. Imagine yourself developing a relationship with someone new.

Please rate each indicator to tell to what extent it would increase your confidence that a potential partner will be there for you.


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Would it increase your confidence that a potential partner will be there for you if he or she . . . .

tells you things that he/she doesn't tell to many people

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

loves you very much

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

has interests in common with you

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is not inconsistent in the things he/she tells you about himself/herself

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

has not betrayed you before

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

says things that portray him/her as tough, but is actually a sweetheart inside

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

stops by or calls when you are sick

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

remembers an upcoming stressful event you mentioned and asks you about it afterwards

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

makes an effort to stay in touch with his/her own family

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

gives you space when you need it, but remains ready to reconnect

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

sacrifices his/her own plans to provide support

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is outgoing

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

sees relationship with you as destiny

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

doesn't get on your nerves

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

shows understanding about life

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

respects the person you are and are trying to be

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

listens to what you say and responds with interest and attention

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

knows how you feel about something even if you haven't explained it explicitly

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

offers to help you with something without you asking

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

notices changes in your mood and asks if anything is wrong

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

laughs at your jokes even though they are not funny

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is polite

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is honest and truthful with you

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

tells you that you are the one for him/her

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

listens fully to what you are saying even when he/she thinks that you are wrong

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

has kept his/her word in prior situations

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

sticks up for you if someone gives you a hard time

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

does not pass judgment on your concerns

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

knows something is wrong even though you haven't said anything

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

doesn't mind being intimate with you in public

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

freely discloses information about self

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

has a nice personality

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is organized and goal-oriented

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

sees how much you care

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

does not ignore others on the street

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

makes small compromises to accommodate your likes and dislikes

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

asks you if you're OK when getting the feeling that you're not

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

enjoys just being with you even if you don't do something special

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

is friendly to everyone

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

doesn't do things that are irritating to you

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

listens to you and tries to understand your point of view

Would NOT really increase my confidence Would VERY MUCH increase my confidence

In this study you also played a Choose Your Own Adventure like game. In this game, you were asked to imagine yourself in a relationship and, at different points in the story, you were asked to make choices. Importantly, some of these choices were secure responses, such as offering to talk to your partner when he or she was upset, and other choices were insecure, such as not providing support to your hypothetical partner. We are interested in whether people know which decisions are best for a relationship-and how this functions in regard to their attachment styles. Previous research has shown that highly anxious people (i.e., especially those who are preoccupied) tend to respond to real life and fictional relationship conflicts in a manner that has the potential to create greater strife in their relationships. Other people are quite skilled in minimizing the amount of conflict that takes place in their relationships. In this research we wanted to see if people who are higher in avoidance and anxiety know which are the best choices to make in relationships.

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I just use my code name in this adventure story and you can try your story too by visiting the site mentioned above!

Personality Type Assessment

today, i answer a personality type quiz and here is the result!

My Profile

Introvert, Sensor, Feeler, Judger (ISFJ)
ISFJs represent between 9 and 14% of the U.S. population

Sensitive, caring, patient, and conscientious, ISFJs can take time to warm up to new ideas and people. Painstakingly accurate and methodical when working with facts and details, ISFJs are patient with follow-through tasks. They tend to take commitments and deadlines very seriously, have excellent memories and are especially good at remembering details pertaining to people. They are patient listeners, eager to help people in real and practical ways. Quiet, private and reserved at first, but once they make a connection they are exceptionally loyal, generous and devoted. ISFJs are down-to-earth and realistic people and use practical judgment in making decisions and lend stability through their excellent commonsense perspective. ISFJs are modest, serious and hardworking and highly supportive of friends and colleagues.

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Instructions:

Below are four questions, and descriptions of two different lists of personality "preferences." Both lists have their own strengths and blindspots. BOTH are equally valuable -- NEITHER one is better or worse than the other.

Read both sets of descriptions for Question #1 and decide which list -- as a whole - describes you better (even if just a little better). Then click the appropriate button. Try to answer as you really are, not how you may wish you were, or have to be at work.

Continue with the other three questions and hit the "Discover Your Type" button for your results.

1. Where is your energy naturally directed?

Extraverts' energy is directed primarily outward, towards people and things outside of themselves. Introverts' energy is primarily directed inward, towards their own thoughts, perceptions, and reactions. Therefore, Extraverts tend to be more naturally active, expressive, social, and interested in many things, whereas Introverts tend to be more reserved, private, cautious, and interested in fewer interactions, but with greater depth and focus.

Extraverts often:

Have high energy
Talk more than listen
Think out loud
Act, then think
Like to be around people a lot
Prefer a public role
Can sometimes be easily distracted
Prefer to do lots of things at once
Are outgoing & enthusiastic

Introverts often:

Have quiet energy
Listen more than talk
Think quietly inside my head
Think, then act
Feel comfortable being alone
Prefer to work "behind-the-scenes"
Have good powers of concentration
Prefer to focus on one thing at a time
Are self-contained and reserved


Extravert (E) or Introvert (I)

If you are confident with your above choice, select 'Confident'.
If not, select 'Not Very Confident' for more information!

Confident Not Very Confident


2. What kind of information do you naturally notice and remember?


Sensors notice the facts, details, and realities of the world around them whereas Intuitives are more interested in connections and relationships between facts as well as the meaning, or possibilities of the information. Sensors tend to be practical and literal people, who trust past experience and often have good common sense. Intuitives tend to be imaginative, theoretical people who trust their hunches and pride themselves on their creativity.



Sensors often:

Focus on details & specifics
Admire practical solutions
Notice details & remember facts
Are pragmatic - see what is
Live in the here-and-now
Trust actual experience
Like to use established skills
Like step-by-step instructions
Work at a steady pace

Intuitives often:

Focus on the big picture & possibilities
Admire creative ideas
Notice anything new or different
Are inventive - see what could be
Think about future implications
Trust their gut instincts
Prefer to learn new skills
Like to figure things out for themselves
Work in bursts of energy


Sensor (S) or Intuitive (N)

If you are confident with your above choice, select 'Confident'.
If not, select 'Not Very Confident' for more information!

Confident Not Very Confident


3. How do you decide or come to conclusions?


Thinkers make decisions based primarily on objective and impersonal criteria--what makes the most sense and what is logical. Feelers make decisions based primarily on their personal values and how they feel about the choices.


Thinkers often:

Make decisions objectively
Appear cool and reserved
Are most convinced by rational arguments
Are honest and direct
Value honesty and fairness
Take few things personally
Tend to see flaws
Are motivated by achievement
Argue or debate issues for fun

Feelers often:

Decide based on their values & feelings
Appear warm and friendly
Are most convinced by how they feel
Are diplomatic and tactful
Value harmony and compassion
Take many things personally
Are quick to compliment others
Are motivated by appreciation
Avoid arguments and conflicts


Thinker (T) or Feeler (F)

If you are confident with your above choice, select 'Confident'.
If not, select 'Not Very Confident' for more information!

Confident Not Very Confident




4. What kind of environment makes you the most comfortable?


Judgers prefer a structured, ordered, and fairly predictable environment, where they can make decisions and have things settled. Perceivers prefer to experience as much of the world as possible, so they like to keep their options open and are most comfortable adapting. So, Judgers tend to be organized and productive while Perceivers tend to be flexible, curious, and nonconforming.


Judgers often:

Make most decisions pretty easily
Are serious & conventional
Pay attention to time & are prompt
Prefer to finish projects
Work first, play later
Want things decided
See the need for most rules
Like to make & stick with plans
Find comfort in schedules
Perceivers often:

May have difficulty making decisions
Are playful & unconventional
Are less aware of time & run late
Prefer to start projects
Play first, work later
Want to keep their options open
Question the need for many rules
Like to keep plans flexible
Want the freedom to be spontaneous

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Judger (J) or Perceiver (P)

If you are confident with your above choice, select 'Confident'.
If not, select 'Not Very Confident' for more information!

Confident Not Very Confident
Your Profile
Here are the results of your Personality Type Assessment.

****I have tried this personality quiz and below is the explanation!
Introvert, Sensor, Feeler, Judger (ISFJ)
ISFJs represent between 9 and 14% of the U.S. population

Sensitive, caring, patient, and conscientious, ISFJs can take time to warm up to new ideas and people. Painstakingly accurate and methodical when working with facts and details, ISFJs are patient with follow-through tasks. They tend to take commitments and deadlines very seriously, have excellent memories and are especially good at remembering details pertaining to people. They are patient listeners, eager to help people in real and practical ways. Quiet, private and reserved at first, but once they make a connection they are exceptionally loyal, generous and devoted. ISFJs are down-to-earth and realistic people and use practical judgment in making decisions and lend stability through their excellent commonsense perspective. ISFJs are modest, serious and hardworking and highly supportive of friends and colleagues.

K3 Graduation Pix

At the playhouse

Every Wednesday afternoon, 1:20 to 2:00 we're spending time to go to school's playhouse. Kids enjoy and have a great time! I do love taking photos of them and this is our collage.

Pose on Valentines Day - I'm 2 years and 7 months here!

CHILDREN'S DAY 2009

JARED - My Little Cowboy

I'm a nude little cowboy!


mom, thanks for the cowboy hat!
tita bhing, thanks for the "pasalubong" from Malaysia!

Another interesting story

EAGLES IN A STORM


Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks?
The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it.
The eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm.
When the storms of life come upon us - and all of us will experience them - we can rise above them by setting our minds and our belief toward God. The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow God's power to lift us above them.
God enables us to ride the winds of the storm that bring us sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm.
Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down; it is how we handle them.

Another story that will touch your heart!

Mountain Story - An interesting short story

"A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"
Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"
He receives the answer: "Who are you?"
And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"
The voice answers: "I admire you!"
Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"
He receives the answer: "Coward!"
He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"
The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention."
Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"
The voice answers: "You are a champion!"
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;
Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

A Very Nice Story that I have read today!

Sand and Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE."
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one, who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After the friend recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE."
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"
The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND, AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!

ACADEMY SHOW 2009 - WILD WILD WEST